🧭 Welcome to Don’t Take the Bait
What to Say (and Not Say) for Unexpected Ex Contact
You didn’t come here because you want to keep hurting.
You came here because, no matter how much time has passed, they still live in your nervous system.
Maybe the breakup was recent — fresh enough that your phone still feels like a live wire.
Or maybe it’s been months… and you're tired of pretending it doesn’t sting every time you see their name pop up.
Or worse — when they don’t pop up, and your brain spins stories to fill in the silence.
This course was built for the quiet moments where heartbreak doesn’t look dramatic…
But it still dictates your day.
You can journal.
You can meditate.
You can “know” it’s over.
But the second you:
- See their name light up your screen
- Run into them at the coffee shop
- Feel the urge to send “just one more message”...
…it’s like logic leaves the room.
You feel it in your body first — the heat in your chest, the tightening in your stomach, the breath you suddenly forget to take.
And in those moments, most people do one of two things:
- They react (text back, spiral, re-enter)
- They shut down (ghost, numb out, pretend they don’t care)
Neither actually helps you heal.
Because neither puts you back in your power.
🗺️The Emotional Landscape You’re In
You’ve done some work already — whether that was journaling, crying it out, or just trying to stay afloat.
You’ve faced the late nights, the overthinking, the hollow mornings.
You’ve started to understand the story, maybe even accepted that it’s over.
But here’s what no one tells you:
The hardest part often comes after the clarity.
When the world keeps moving, and they still live in your head.
Because this is when the real tests begin. Not the big, obvious kind. The subtle, devastating ones:
- The 10-word text that reopens a 10-month wound.
- The run-in that floods your chest with emotion, but you don’t know what to say.
- The voice in your head that whispers: “Maybe just this one last time…”
🧠 Your Nervous System Thinks Contact = Closure
But it’s not.
Most people don’t reach out for clarity. They reach out to regulate.
To try and feel normal again.
To feel seen again.
To feel safe again.
And here’s the twist: What your brain calls closure is often just an old emotional loop disguised as logic.
This course will teach you how to spot the difference.
And more importantly, what to do in that critical 3-second window before the spiral starts.
🔧 What You’ll Learn to Do Instead
This isn’t a course about “never talking to your ex again.”
It’s a course about how to navigate contact with power, clarity, and self-trust — whether that contact is real or imagined.
You’ll learn:
- What to say (and not say) when they message you out of nowhere
- How to handle in-person encounters without spiraling
- How to stop yourself from reaching out when every cell in your body is screaming for connection
- How to complete the conversation inside of you so you don’t keep trying to finish it with them
You’ll get scripts. You’ll get nervous system tools. You’ll get rituals that close emotional loops without opening literal ones.
This is emotional martial arts. It’s knowing how to move with the energy, instead of being slammed by it.
😮💨 The Shift You’re About to Feel
You’re about to go from:
“I don’t know what to say, so I just said something I regret...”
to
“I chose not to respond — and it felt like peace, not punishment.”
From:
“I keep checking their page, and I hate that I still care...”
to
“That urge came up… and I met it without betraying myself.”
From:
“I was doing fine… until I saw them again.”
to
“I saw them. I stayed in my body. I walked away proud.”
🌱 You’re Not Here to Prove You’re Over It.
You’re Here to Practice Being Free.
And that’s what this course delivers.
Not a performance. Not perfection. Just power. Clarity. Tools that actually work when the moment hits.
So welcome.
Not just to a course…
But to a new way of being in contact with the past — without letting it dictate your future.
You’re exactly where you need to be.
Let’s begin.